In My Life
When I was young, I was taught to be kind to others. I even took a whooping until one day I engraved it in my heart. Right up to this day, I've never forgot my lessons - that kindness is one of my greatest purposes in life.
Then I was taught not to listen and be far away from those who discourage you. Never fight with those who hurt or try to fight you, walk away silently. They may call you a coward or... no warrior. Then I asked why should I walk away and yet you spend everyday telling me to be a brave?
I was told an Angel doesn't fight. It is wise never to draw your sword and attack those who stand in your way, be calm and you will find peace, be wise and you will see beyond what's to happen.
Remember, there are many kinds of warriors amongst us:
• There are warriors, who invade others because they are not wise. We call them Hyenas.
• There are warriors, who are driven by their feelings. We call them Vipers.
• There are warriors, who devote their lives to wisdom so they can be humble and find peace (even at war). We call them Angels.
Then I was asked, "You have been blessed with great courage and everything else that makes a warrior. What kind of warrior are you? A Hyena or a Viper or an Angel?"
I said an Angel.
Then I was told to treat everyone and everything that you meet in your path with that heart. Be unbreakable, be humble and always look at others with the eyes of love and you will be stronger than any warrior who walks on this earth.
- by Kiplimo Chemirmir
Saturday, December 31, 2011
Thursday, December 22, 2011
Wednesday, December 21, 2011
How good are India's best schools?
Wipro - EI Quality Education Study – 2011
A study of schools, An eye opener... “How good are India's ‘best’ schools?”
http://www.livemint.com/2011/12/12004717/Our-8216best8217-schools.html?h=B
http://wiproeducation.com/sites/default/files/Mint%20-%20Pg%2011%20-%2012%20Dec%202011%20-%20All%20Editions2.jpg
http://www.thehindu.com/todays-paper/tp-opinion/article2707562.ece
A study of schools, An eye opener... “How good are India's ‘best’ schools?”
http://www.livemint.com/2011/12/12004717/Our-8216best8217-schools.html?h=B
http://wiproeducation.com/sites/default/files/Mint%20-%20Pg%2011%20-%2012%20Dec%202011%20-%20All%20Editions2.jpg
http://www.thehindu.com/todays-paper/tp-opinion/article2707562.ece
Smile By Barbara Hauck
She smiled at a sorrowful stranger...
The smile seemed to make him feel better...
He remembered past kindnesses of a friend
And wrote him a thank you letter...
The friend was so pleased with the thank you
That he left a large tip after lunch...
The waitress, surprised by the size of the tip,
Bet the whole thing on a hunch...
The next day she picked up her winnings,
And gave part to a man on the street...
The man on the street was grateful;
For two days he'd had nothing to eat...
After he finished his dinner,
He left for his small dingy room...
He didn't know at that moment
That he might be facing his doom...
On the way he picked up a shivering puppy
And took him home to get warm...
The puppy was very grateful
To be in out of the storm...
That night the house caught on fire...
The puppy barked the alarm...
He barked till he woke the whole household
And saved everybody from harm...
One of the boys that he rescued
Grew up to be President...
All this because of a simple smile
That hadn't cost a cent...
The smile seemed to make him feel better...
He remembered past kindnesses of a friend
And wrote him a thank you letter...
The friend was so pleased with the thank you
That he left a large tip after lunch...
The waitress, surprised by the size of the tip,
Bet the whole thing on a hunch...
The next day she picked up her winnings,
And gave part to a man on the street...
The man on the street was grateful;
For two days he'd had nothing to eat...
After he finished his dinner,
He left for his small dingy room...
He didn't know at that moment
That he might be facing his doom...
On the way he picked up a shivering puppy
And took him home to get warm...
The puppy was very grateful
To be in out of the storm...
That night the house caught on fire...
The puppy barked the alarm...
He barked till he woke the whole household
And saved everybody from harm...
One of the boys that he rescued
Grew up to be President...
All this because of a simple smile
That hadn't cost a cent...
Tuesday, December 20, 2011
Perfectly Imperfect by Steve Maraboli
We have all heard that no two snowflakes are alike. Each snowflake takes the perfect form for the maximum efficiency and effectiveness for its journey. And while the universal force of gravity gives them a shared destination, the expansive space in the air gives each snowflake the opportunity to take their own path. They are on the same journey, but each takes a different path.
Along this gravity-driven journey, some snowflakes collide and damage each other, some collide and join together, some are influenced by wind... there are so many transitions and changes that take place along the journey of the snowflake. But, no matter what the transition, the snowflake always finds itself perfectly shaped for its journey.
I find parallels in nature to be a beautiful reflection of grand orchestration. One of these parallels is of snowflakes and us. We, too, are all headed in the same direction. We are being driven by a universal force to the same destination. We are all individuals taking different journeys and along our journey, we sometimes bump into each other, we cross paths, we become altered... we take different physical forms.
But at all times we too are 100% perfectly imperfect.
At every given moment we are absolutely perfect for what is required for our journey. I’m not perfect for your journey and you’re not perfect for my journey, but I’m perfect for my journey and you’re perfect for your journey. We’re heading to the same place, we’re taking different routes, but we’re both exactly perfect the way we are.
Think of what understanding this great orchestration could mean for relationships. Imagine interacting with others knowing that they too each share this parallel with the snowflake. Like you, they are headed to the same place and no matter what they may appear like to you, they have taken the perfect form for their journey. How strong our relationships would be if we could see and respect that we are all perfectly imperfect for our journey.
Along this gravity-driven journey, some snowflakes collide and damage each other, some collide and join together, some are influenced by wind... there are so many transitions and changes that take place along the journey of the snowflake. But, no matter what the transition, the snowflake always finds itself perfectly shaped for its journey.
I find parallels in nature to be a beautiful reflection of grand orchestration. One of these parallels is of snowflakes and us. We, too, are all headed in the same direction. We are being driven by a universal force to the same destination. We are all individuals taking different journeys and along our journey, we sometimes bump into each other, we cross paths, we become altered... we take different physical forms.
But at all times we too are 100% perfectly imperfect.
At every given moment we are absolutely perfect for what is required for our journey. I’m not perfect for your journey and you’re not perfect for my journey, but I’m perfect for my journey and you’re perfect for your journey. We’re heading to the same place, we’re taking different routes, but we’re both exactly perfect the way we are.
Think of what understanding this great orchestration could mean for relationships. Imagine interacting with others knowing that they too each share this parallel with the snowflake. Like you, they are headed to the same place and no matter what they may appear like to you, they have taken the perfect form for their journey. How strong our relationships would be if we could see and respect that we are all perfectly imperfect for our journey.
Monday, December 19, 2011
Three Things
Three Things Three things in life that, once gone, never come back -
Time Words Opportunity
Three things in life that are most valuable -
Love Self-confidence Friends
Three things in life that are never certain -
Dreams Success Fortune
Three things that make a man/woman -
Hard work Sincerity Commitment
Three things in life that can destroy a man/woman -
Alcohol Pride Anger
Three things in life that, once lost, hard to build-up -
Respect Trust Friendship
Time Words Opportunity
Three things in life that are most valuable -
Love Self-confidence Friends
Three things in life that are never certain -
Dreams Success Fortune
Three things that make a man/woman -
Hard work Sincerity Commitment
Three things in life that can destroy a man/woman -
Alcohol Pride Anger
Three things in life that, once lost, hard to build-up -
Respect Trust Friendship
Friday, December 16, 2011
Tuesday, December 13, 2011
The Little Boy
Sally jumped up as soon as she saw the surgeon come out of the operating room. She said: “How is my little boy? Is he going to be all right? When can I see him?”
The surgeon said, “I’m sorry. We did all we could, but your boy didn’t make it.”
Sally said, “Why do little children get cancer? Doesn’t God care anymore? Where were you, God, when my son needed you?”
The surgeon asked, “Would you like some time alone with your son? One of the nurses will be out in a few minutes, before he’s transported to the university.”
Sally asked the nurse to stay with her while she said good-bye to son. She ran her fingers lovingly through his thick red curly hair.
“Would you like a lock of his hair?” the nurse asked.
Sally nodded yes. The nurse cut a lock of the boy’s hair, put it in a plastic bag and handed it to Sally. The mother said, “It was Jimmy’s idea to donate his body to the university for study. He said it might help somebody else. “I said no at first, but Jimmy said, ‘Mom, I won’t be using it after I die. Maybe it will help some other little boy spend one more day with his Mom’” She went on, “My Jimmy had a heart of gold. Always thinking of someone else. Always wanting to help others if he could.”
Sally walked out of Children’s mercy Hospital for the last time, after spending most of the last six months there. She put the bag with Jimmy’s belongings on the seat beside her in the car. The drive home was difficult. It was even harder to enter the empty house. She carried Jimmy’s belongings, and the plastic bag with the lock of his hair to her son’s room. She started placing the model cars and other personal things back in his room exactly where he had always kept them. She laid down across his bed and, hugging his pillow, cried herself to sleep.
It was around midnight when Sally woke up. Laying beside her on the bed was a folded letter.
The letter said:
“Dear Mom,
I know you’re going to miss me; but don’t think that I will ever forget you, or stop loving you, just ’cause I’m not around to say I LOVE YOU. I will always love you, Mom, even more with each day. Someday we will see each other again. Until then, if you want to adopt a little boy so you won’t be so lonely, that’s okay with me. He can have my room and old stuff to play with. But, if you decide to get a girl instead, she probably wouldn’t like the same things us boys do. You’ll have to buy her dolls and stuff girls like, you know. Don’t be sad thinking about me. This really is a neat place. Grandma and Grandpa met me as soon as I got here and showed me around some, but it will take a long time to see everything. The angels are so cool. I love to watch them fly. And, you know what? Jesus doesn’t look like any of his pictures. Yet, when I saw Him, I knew it was Him. Jesus himself took me to see GOD! And guess what, Mom? I got to sit on God’s knee and talk to Him, like I was somebody important. That’s when I told Him that I wanted to write you a letter, to tell you good-bye and everything. But I already knew that wasn’t allowed. Well, you know what Mom? God handed me some paper and His own personal pen to write you this letter. I think Gabriel is the name of the angel who is going to drop this letter off to you. God said for me to give you the answer to one of the questions you asked Him ‘Where was He when I needed him?’ “God said He was in the same place with me, as when His son Jesus was on the cross. He was right there, as He always is with all His children.
Oh, by the way, Mom, no one else can see what I’ve written except you. To everyone else this is just a blank piece of paper. Isn’t that cool? I have to give God His pen back now. He needs it to write some more names in the Book of Life. Tonight I get to sit at the table with Jesus for supper. I’m, sure the food will be great.
Oh, I almost forgot to tell you. I don’t hurt anymore. The cancer is all gone. I’m glad because I couldn’t stand that pain anymore and God couldn’t stand to see me hurt so much, either. That’s when He sent The Angel of Mercy to come get me. The Angel said I was a Special Delivery! How about that?
Signed with Love from: God, Jesus & Me.”
Author: Anonymous
The surgeon said, “I’m sorry. We did all we could, but your boy didn’t make it.”
Sally said, “Why do little children get cancer? Doesn’t God care anymore? Where were you, God, when my son needed you?”
The surgeon asked, “Would you like some time alone with your son? One of the nurses will be out in a few minutes, before he’s transported to the university.”
Sally asked the nurse to stay with her while she said good-bye to son. She ran her fingers lovingly through his thick red curly hair.
“Would you like a lock of his hair?” the nurse asked.
Sally nodded yes. The nurse cut a lock of the boy’s hair, put it in a plastic bag and handed it to Sally. The mother said, “It was Jimmy’s idea to donate his body to the university for study. He said it might help somebody else. “I said no at first, but Jimmy said, ‘Mom, I won’t be using it after I die. Maybe it will help some other little boy spend one more day with his Mom’” She went on, “My Jimmy had a heart of gold. Always thinking of someone else. Always wanting to help others if he could.”
Sally walked out of Children’s mercy Hospital for the last time, after spending most of the last six months there. She put the bag with Jimmy’s belongings on the seat beside her in the car. The drive home was difficult. It was even harder to enter the empty house. She carried Jimmy’s belongings, and the plastic bag with the lock of his hair to her son’s room. She started placing the model cars and other personal things back in his room exactly where he had always kept them. She laid down across his bed and, hugging his pillow, cried herself to sleep.
It was around midnight when Sally woke up. Laying beside her on the bed was a folded letter.
The letter said:
“Dear Mom,
I know you’re going to miss me; but don’t think that I will ever forget you, or stop loving you, just ’cause I’m not around to say I LOVE YOU. I will always love you, Mom, even more with each day. Someday we will see each other again. Until then, if you want to adopt a little boy so you won’t be so lonely, that’s okay with me. He can have my room and old stuff to play with. But, if you decide to get a girl instead, she probably wouldn’t like the same things us boys do. You’ll have to buy her dolls and stuff girls like, you know. Don’t be sad thinking about me. This really is a neat place. Grandma and Grandpa met me as soon as I got here and showed me around some, but it will take a long time to see everything. The angels are so cool. I love to watch them fly. And, you know what? Jesus doesn’t look like any of his pictures. Yet, when I saw Him, I knew it was Him. Jesus himself took me to see GOD! And guess what, Mom? I got to sit on God’s knee and talk to Him, like I was somebody important. That’s when I told Him that I wanted to write you a letter, to tell you good-bye and everything. But I already knew that wasn’t allowed. Well, you know what Mom? God handed me some paper and His own personal pen to write you this letter. I think Gabriel is the name of the angel who is going to drop this letter off to you. God said for me to give you the answer to one of the questions you asked Him ‘Where was He when I needed him?’ “God said He was in the same place with me, as when His son Jesus was on the cross. He was right there, as He always is with all His children.
Oh, by the way, Mom, no one else can see what I’ve written except you. To everyone else this is just a blank piece of paper. Isn’t that cool? I have to give God His pen back now. He needs it to write some more names in the Book of Life. Tonight I get to sit at the table with Jesus for supper. I’m, sure the food will be great.
Oh, I almost forgot to tell you. I don’t hurt anymore. The cancer is all gone. I’m glad because I couldn’t stand that pain anymore and God couldn’t stand to see me hurt so much, either. That’s when He sent The Angel of Mercy to come get me. The Angel said I was a Special Delivery! How about that?
Signed with Love from: God, Jesus & Me.”
Author: Anonymous
Monday, December 12, 2011
Just for Laughs
1. Long back, a person who sacrificed his sleep, forgot his family, forgot about food, forgot laughter was called ‘Saint’. But now they are called... ‘IT professionals’ – sad isn’t it !
2. An interesting line written on the back of a Biker’s T Shirt:‘If you are able to see this, Please tell me that my girlfriend has fallen off’
3. Most Relationships fail not because of the absence of love...
Love is always present…It’s just that…
One loves too much, and…The other loves too many.
4. Employee: Boss, now I have got married..! Please increase my salary..!
BOSS: Factory is not responsible for accidents occurring outside the company..!
5. Philosophy of life
At the beginning of married life, every girl treats her husband as GOD,
Later on somehow the alphabets get reversed..! DOG
6. What is Fear?
Fear is the Deep, Wrenching feeling in your stomach when pages of your book still smell new just few hours your exams..!
7. Boy: Do you have Cards with sentimental Love quotes?
Shopkeeper: Oh sure..!
How about this card, it says ‘To the only Girl I ever loved !’
Boy: That’s good, Give me 4 of them..!
8. After reading the form filled by an applicant..
The employer said: ‘We do have an opening for you..!
Applicant: What is it?
Interviewer: It’s called the ‘door..!’
9. Banner cum Sign Board In front of an IT company..
Drive Slowly, Don’t kill our Employee…….. Leave them to us
2. An interesting line written on the back of a Biker’s T Shirt:‘If you are able to see this, Please tell me that my girlfriend has fallen off’
3. Most Relationships fail not because of the absence of love...
Love is always present…It’s just that…
One loves too much, and…The other loves too many.
4. Employee: Boss, now I have got married..! Please increase my salary..!
BOSS: Factory is not responsible for accidents occurring outside the company..!
5. Philosophy of life
At the beginning of married life, every girl treats her husband as GOD,
Later on somehow the alphabets get reversed..! DOG
6. What is Fear?
Fear is the Deep, Wrenching feeling in your stomach when pages of your book still smell new just few hours your exams..!
7. Boy: Do you have Cards with sentimental Love quotes?
Shopkeeper: Oh sure..!
How about this card, it says ‘To the only Girl I ever loved !’
Boy: That’s good, Give me 4 of them..!
8. After reading the form filled by an applicant..
The employer said: ‘We do have an opening for you..!
Applicant: What is it?
Interviewer: It’s called the ‘door..!’
9. Banner cum Sign Board In front of an IT company..
Drive Slowly, Don’t kill our Employee…….. Leave them to us
Saturday, December 10, 2011
Love Wealth Success
A woman came out of her house and saw 3 old men with long white beards sitting in her front yard. She did not recognize them. She enquired “I don’t think I know you, but you must be hungry. Please come in and have something to eat.”
“Is the man of the house home?”, they asked.
“No”, she replied. “He’s out.”
“Then we cannot come in”, they replied.
In the evening when her husband came home, she told him what had happened.
“Go tell them I am home and invite them in !”
The woman went out and invited the men in”
” We do not go into a House together,” they replied. “Why is that?” she asked.
One of them explained: “His name is Wealth,” he said pointing to one, and said pointing to another one, “He is Success, and I am Love.” Then he added, “Now go in and discuss with your husband which one of us you want in your home.”
The woman went in and told her husband what was said. Husband said. “Since that is the case, let us invite Wealth. Let him come and fill our home with wealth !”
His wife disagreed. “My dear, why don’t we invite Success !”
Their daughter was listening from the corner of the house. She jumped in with her own suggestion: “Would it not be better to invite Love ! Our home will then be filled with love !”
“Let us heed our daughter’s advice,” said the husband to his wife. All of them agreed, and the wife went out to invite Love.
The woman went out and asked the 3 old men, “Which one of you is Love? Please come in and be our guest.”
Love got up and started walking toward the house. The other 2 also got up and followed him. Surprised, the lady asked Wealth and Success: “While I am happy to see all of you follow me in, did you say that only one of you would come in?”
The old men replied together: “If you had invited Wealth or Success, the other two of us would’ve stayed out, but since you invited Love, wherever He goes, we go with him. Wherever there is Love, there is also Wealth and Success !”
Treasure the love you receive above all. It will survive for life compared to the gold and accomplishments have.
“Is the man of the house home?”, they asked.
“No”, she replied. “He’s out.”
“Then we cannot come in”, they replied.
In the evening when her husband came home, she told him what had happened.
“Go tell them I am home and invite them in !”
The woman went out and invited the men in”
” We do not go into a House together,” they replied. “Why is that?” she asked.
One of them explained: “His name is Wealth,” he said pointing to one, and said pointing to another one, “He is Success, and I am Love.” Then he added, “Now go in and discuss with your husband which one of us you want in your home.”
The woman went in and told her husband what was said. Husband said. “Since that is the case, let us invite Wealth. Let him come and fill our home with wealth !”
His wife disagreed. “My dear, why don’t we invite Success !”
Their daughter was listening from the corner of the house. She jumped in with her own suggestion: “Would it not be better to invite Love ! Our home will then be filled with love !”
“Let us heed our daughter’s advice,” said the husband to his wife. All of them agreed, and the wife went out to invite Love.
The woman went out and asked the 3 old men, “Which one of you is Love? Please come in and be our guest.”
Love got up and started walking toward the house. The other 2 also got up and followed him. Surprised, the lady asked Wealth and Success: “While I am happy to see all of you follow me in, did you say that only one of you would come in?”
The old men replied together: “If you had invited Wealth or Success, the other two of us would’ve stayed out, but since you invited Love, wherever He goes, we go with him. Wherever there is Love, there is also Wealth and Success !”
Treasure the love you receive above all. It will survive for life compared to the gold and accomplishments have.
Friday, December 9, 2011
Heaven's Grocery Store By Ron DeMarco
I was walking down life's highway
a long, long time ago.
One day I saw a sign that read,
"HEAVEN'S GROCERY STORE."
As I got a little closer,
the door opened wide,
and I found myself standing inside.
I saw a host of ANGELS.
They were standing everywhere.
One handed me a basket and said,
"My Child, shop with care."
"Everything a human needed
was in that grocery store.
And if you couldn't carry it all,
you could come back the next day for more.
First, I got some PATIENCE.
LOVE was in the same row.
Further down was UNDERSTANDING,
you need that everywhere you go.
I got a box or two of WISDOM,
a bag or two of FAITH.
I just couldn't miss the HOLY GHOST,
for it was all over the place.
I stopped to get some STRENGTH and
COURAGE TO HELP ME RUN THIS RACE.
By then my basket was getting full,
but I remembered I needed some GRACE.
I didn't forget SALVATION,
for SALVATION was free.
So I tried to get enough of that to save both you and me.
Then I started up to the counter to pay my grocery bill.
For I thought I had everything to do the MASTER'S will.
As I went up the aisle, I saw PRAYER;
and I just had to put that in,
for I knew when I stepped outside,
I would run into sin.
PEACE and JOY were plentiful;
they were last on the shelf.
SONG and PRAISE were hanging near,
so I just helped myself.
Then I said to the angel,
"Now, how much do I owe?"
He smiled and said, "
MY CHILD, GOD PAID YOUR BILL A LONG, LONG TIME AGO
a long, long time ago.
One day I saw a sign that read,
"HEAVEN'S GROCERY STORE."
As I got a little closer,
the door opened wide,
and I found myself standing inside.
I saw a host of ANGELS.
They were standing everywhere.
One handed me a basket and said,
"My Child, shop with care."
"Everything a human needed
was in that grocery store.
And if you couldn't carry it all,
you could come back the next day for more.
First, I got some PATIENCE.
LOVE was in the same row.
Further down was UNDERSTANDING,
you need that everywhere you go.
I got a box or two of WISDOM,
a bag or two of FAITH.
I just couldn't miss the HOLY GHOST,
for it was all over the place.
I stopped to get some STRENGTH and
COURAGE TO HELP ME RUN THIS RACE.
By then my basket was getting full,
but I remembered I needed some GRACE.
I didn't forget SALVATION,
for SALVATION was free.
So I tried to get enough of that to save both you and me.
Then I started up to the counter to pay my grocery bill.
For I thought I had everything to do the MASTER'S will.
As I went up the aisle, I saw PRAYER;
and I just had to put that in,
for I knew when I stepped outside,
I would run into sin.
PEACE and JOY were plentiful;
they were last on the shelf.
SONG and PRAISE were hanging near,
so I just helped myself.
Then I said to the angel,
"Now, how much do I owe?"
He smiled and said, "
MY CHILD, GOD PAID YOUR BILL A LONG, LONG TIME AGO
Aptitude Test
Aptitude Test - Pay close attention ! There are 8 questions, so you should be able to answer them all in about 5 minutes. DO NOT look at the answers found at the end before you have attempted all of them! Write each of your answers down, it makes a difference! (Or open notepad and type them)
1) Some months have 30 days, some months have 31 days. How many months have 28 days?
2) If a doctor gives you 3 pills and tells you to take one pill every half hour, how long would it be before all the pills have been taken?
3) I went to bed at eight o’clock in the evening and wound up my clock and set the alarm to sound at nine o’clock in the morning. How many hours sleep would I get before being awoken by the alarm?
4) Divide 30 by half and add ten. What do you get?
5) A farmer had 17 sheep. All but 9 died. How many live sheep were left?
6) If you have only one match stick and entered a COLD and DARK room, where there was an oil heater, an oil lamp and a candle, which would you light first?
7) A man builds a house with four sides of rectangular construction, each side having a southern exposure. A big bear comes along. What color is the bear?
8) If you drove a bus with 43 people on board from Bangalore and stopped at Ramanagara to pick up 7 more people and drop off 5 passengers and at Mandya to drop off 8 passengers and pick up 4 more and eventually arrive at Mysore 4 hours later, what’s the name of the driver?
Answers:
1) All of them. Every month has at least 28 days.
2) 1 hour. If you take a pill at 1 o’clock, then another at 1.30 and the last at 2 o’clock, they will be taken in 1 hour.
3) 1 hour. It is a wind up alarm clock which cannot discriminate between am & pm.
4) 70. Dividing by half is the same as multiplying by 2.
5) 9 live sheep.
6) The match stick.
7) White. If all walls face south, the house must be on the North Pole.
8) YOU are the driver.
1) Some months have 30 days, some months have 31 days. How many months have 28 days?
2) If a doctor gives you 3 pills and tells you to take one pill every half hour, how long would it be before all the pills have been taken?
3) I went to bed at eight o’clock in the evening and wound up my clock and set the alarm to sound at nine o’clock in the morning. How many hours sleep would I get before being awoken by the alarm?
4) Divide 30 by half and add ten. What do you get?
5) A farmer had 17 sheep. All but 9 died. How many live sheep were left?
6) If you have only one match stick and entered a COLD and DARK room, where there was an oil heater, an oil lamp and a candle, which would you light first?
7) A man builds a house with four sides of rectangular construction, each side having a southern exposure. A big bear comes along. What color is the bear?
8) If you drove a bus with 43 people on board from Bangalore and stopped at Ramanagara to pick up 7 more people and drop off 5 passengers and at Mandya to drop off 8 passengers and pick up 4 more and eventually arrive at Mysore 4 hours later, what’s the name of the driver?
Answers:
1) All of them. Every month has at least 28 days.
2) 1 hour. If you take a pill at 1 o’clock, then another at 1.30 and the last at 2 o’clock, they will be taken in 1 hour.
3) 1 hour. It is a wind up alarm clock which cannot discriminate between am & pm.
4) 70. Dividing by half is the same as multiplying by 2.
5) 9 live sheep.
6) The match stick.
7) White. If all walls face south, the house must be on the North Pole.
8) YOU are the driver.
My heart burns like fire
Soyen Shaku, the first Zen teacher to come to America, said: “My heart burns like fire but my eyes are as cold as dead ashes.” He made the following rules which he practiced every day of his life.
In the morning before dressing, light incense and meditate.
Retire at a regular hour. Partake of food at regular intervals. Eat with moderation and never to the point of satisfaction.
Receive a guest with the same attitude you have when alone. When alone, maintain the same attitude you have in receiving guests.
Watch what you say, and whatever you say, practice it.
When an opportunity comes do not let it pass by, yet always think twice before acting.
Do not regret the past. Look to the future.
Have the fearless attitude of a hero and the loving heart of a child.
Upon retiring, sleep as if you had entered your last sleep. Upon awakening, leave your bed behind instantly as if you had cast away a pair of old shoes.
No matter how you feel – get up, dress up and show up.
In the morning before dressing, light incense and meditate.
Retire at a regular hour. Partake of food at regular intervals. Eat with moderation and never to the point of satisfaction.
Receive a guest with the same attitude you have when alone. When alone, maintain the same attitude you have in receiving guests.
Watch what you say, and whatever you say, practice it.
When an opportunity comes do not let it pass by, yet always think twice before acting.
Do not regret the past. Look to the future.
Have the fearless attitude of a hero and the loving heart of a child.
Upon retiring, sleep as if you had entered your last sleep. Upon awakening, leave your bed behind instantly as if you had cast away a pair of old shoes.
No matter how you feel – get up, dress up and show up.
Saturday, December 3, 2011
A Violinist in the Metro
A man sat at a metro station in Washington DC and started to play the violin; it was a cold January morning. He played six Bach pieces for about 45 minutes. During that time, since it was rush hour, it was calculated that thousand of people went through the station, most of them on their way to work.
Three minutes went by and a middle aged man noticed there was musician playing. He slowed his pace and stopped for a few seconds and then hurried up to meet his schedule.
A minute later, the violinist received his first dollar tip: a woman threw the money in the till and without stopping continued to walk.
A few minutes later, someone leaned against the wall to listen to him, but the man looked at his watch and started to walk again. Clearly he was late for work.
The one who paid the most attention was a 3 year old boy. His mother tagged him along, hurried but the kid stopped to look at the violinist. Finally the mother pushed hard and the child continued to walk turning his head all the time. This action was repeated by several other children. All the parents, without exception, forced them to move on.
In the 45 minutes the musician played, only 6 people stopped and stayed for a while. About 20 gave him money but continued to walk their normal pace. He collected $32. When he finished playing and silence took over, no one noticed it. No one applauded, nor was there any recognition.
No one knew this but the violinist was Joshua Bell, one of the best musicians in the world. He played one of the most intricate pieces ever written with a violin worth 3.5 million dollars.
Two days before his playing in the subway, Joshua Bell sold out at a theater in Boston and the seats average $100.
This is a real story. Joshua Bell playing incognito in the metro station was organized by the Washington Post as part of an social experiment about perception, taste and priorities of people. The outlines were: in a commonplace environment at an inappropriate hour: Do we perceive beauty? Do we stop to appreciate it? Do we recognize the talent in an unexpected context?
One of the possible conclusions from this experience could be:
If we do not have a moment to stop and listen to one of the best musicians in the world playing the best music ever written, how many other things are we missing?
Three minutes went by and a middle aged man noticed there was musician playing. He slowed his pace and stopped for a few seconds and then hurried up to meet his schedule.
A minute later, the violinist received his first dollar tip: a woman threw the money in the till and without stopping continued to walk.
A few minutes later, someone leaned against the wall to listen to him, but the man looked at his watch and started to walk again. Clearly he was late for work.
The one who paid the most attention was a 3 year old boy. His mother tagged him along, hurried but the kid stopped to look at the violinist. Finally the mother pushed hard and the child continued to walk turning his head all the time. This action was repeated by several other children. All the parents, without exception, forced them to move on.
In the 45 minutes the musician played, only 6 people stopped and stayed for a while. About 20 gave him money but continued to walk their normal pace. He collected $32. When he finished playing and silence took over, no one noticed it. No one applauded, nor was there any recognition.
No one knew this but the violinist was Joshua Bell, one of the best musicians in the world. He played one of the most intricate pieces ever written with a violin worth 3.5 million dollars.
Two days before his playing in the subway, Joshua Bell sold out at a theater in Boston and the seats average $100.
This is a real story. Joshua Bell playing incognito in the metro station was organized by the Washington Post as part of an social experiment about perception, taste and priorities of people. The outlines were: in a commonplace environment at an inappropriate hour: Do we perceive beauty? Do we stop to appreciate it? Do we recognize the talent in an unexpected context?
One of the possible conclusions from this experience could be:
If we do not have a moment to stop and listen to one of the best musicians in the world playing the best music ever written, how many other things are we missing?
Your Role Model
Find out who your role model is . Don't cheat !
Just do it you will be surprised!!!!!! It's amazing...........................
WHO IS YOUR ROLE MODEL??? Try it without..... Please DO STEP BY STEP and don't scroll down tillyou have completed the exercise, you'll love it I promise
1) Pick your favorite number between 1-9
2) Multiply by 3 then
3) Add 3, then again Multiply by 3 (I'll wait while you get the calculator....)
4) You'll get a 2 or 3 digit number..
5) Add the digits together
Now Scroll down ..............
Now with that number see who your ROLE MODEL is from the list below:
1. Einstein
2. Nelson Mandela
3. Abraham Lincoln
4. Helen Keller
5. Bill Gates
6. Gandhi
7. George Clooney
8. Thomas Edison
9. ME!!!
10. Abraham Lincoln
'I know....I just have that effect on people....one day you too can belike me.... :~) Believe it !
P.S. : Stop picking different numbers. I am your idol, just deal with it !!!! :)
Just do it you will be surprised!!!!!! It's amazing...........................
WHO IS YOUR ROLE MODEL??? Try it without..... Please DO STEP BY STEP and don't scroll down tillyou have completed the exercise, you'll love it I promise
1) Pick your favorite number between 1-9
2) Multiply by 3 then
3) Add 3, then again Multiply by 3 (I'll wait while you get the calculator....)
4) You'll get a 2 or 3 digit number..
5) Add the digits together
Now Scroll down ..............
Now with that number see who your ROLE MODEL is from the list below:
1. Einstein
2. Nelson Mandela
3. Abraham Lincoln
4. Helen Keller
5. Bill Gates
6. Gandhi
7. George Clooney
8. Thomas Edison
9. ME!!!
10. Abraham Lincoln
'I know....I just have that effect on people....one day you too can belike me.... :~) Believe it !
P.S. : Stop picking different numbers. I am your idol, just deal with it !!!! :)
Success...- KFC Story
He was 65 years old when he received his first social security check of $99. He was broke, and owned a small house and a beat up car. He made a decision that he has got to change. The only idea he had was a chicken recipe, which his friends liked. With that idea in mind, he took massive action. He left his home in Kentucky and traveled to many states in the US to sell his idea. He told the restaurant owners that he had a chicken recipe that people liked and he was giving it to them for free. What he wanted in return was for the restaurant owners to pay him a small percentage on the pieces of chicken sold. He got rejections after rejections, but did not give up. In fact, he got over 1000 rejections. He got 1009 no’s before he got his first yes.
With that one success Colonel Harland Sanders changed the eating habits of the whole world with Kentucky Fried Chicken.
SUCCESS PRINCIPLES
Age is no barrier to success, and so is capital.
What is needed is an idea put into action, followed with proper planning and persistency.
How many of us will keep knocking on doors when we have received 1000 rejections?
I presume not many!
This is why there are not many successes like Colonel Sanders.
MORAL
"Any man's life will be filled with constant and unexpected encouragement if he makes up his mind to do his level best each day."
With that one success Colonel Harland Sanders changed the eating habits of the whole world with Kentucky Fried Chicken.
SUCCESS PRINCIPLES
Age is no barrier to success, and so is capital.
What is needed is an idea put into action, followed with proper planning and persistency.
How many of us will keep knocking on doors when we have received 1000 rejections?
I presume not many!
This is why there are not many successes like Colonel Sanders.
MORAL
"Any man's life will be filled with constant and unexpected encouragement if he makes up his mind to do his level best each day."
As parents, when do you stop worrying?
WORRY
Is there a magic cutoff period when Offspring become accountable for their own Actions? Is there a wonderful moment when Parents can become detached spectators in The lives of their children and shrug, 'It's Their life,' and feel nothing?
When I was in my twenties , I stood in a hospital Corridor waiting for doctors to put a few Stitches in my daughter's head. I asked, 'When do You stop worrying?' The nurse said, 'When they get out of the accident stage..' My Dad just smiled faintly and said nothing.
When I was in my thirties, I sat on a little Chair in a classroom and heard how one of my Children talked incessantly, disrupted the class, And was headed for a career making License plates. As if to read my mind, a teacher Said, 'Don't worry, they all go through This stage and then you can sit back, relax and Enjoy them.' My dad just smiled Faintly and said nothing.
When I was in my forties, I spent a lifetime Waiting for the phone to ring, the cars to come Home, the front door to open. A friend said, 'They're trying to find themselves. Don't! worry, In a few years, you can stop worrying. They'll be Adults.' My dad just smiled faintly And said nothing.
By the time I was 50, I was sick & tired of being Vulnerable. I was still worrying over my Children, but there was a new wrinkle. There Was nothing I could do about it. My Dad just smiled faintly and said nothing. I Continued to anguish over their failures, be Tormented by their frustrations and absorbed in Their disappointments.
My friends said that when my kids got married I Could stop worrying and lead my own Life. I wanted to believe that, but I was Haunted by my dad's warm smile and his Occasional, 'You look pale. Are you all right? Call me the minute you get home. Are You depressed about something?'
Can it be that parents are sentenced to a Lifetime of worry? Is concern for one another Handed down like a torch to blaze the trail of Human frailties and the fears of the Unknown? Is concern a curse or is it a virtue That elevates us to the highest form of life?
One of my children became quite irritable Recently, saying to me, 'Where were you? I've been Calling for 3 days, and no one answered I was worried.' I smiled a warm smile. The torch has been passed.
PASS IT ON TO OTHER WONDERFUL PARENTS(And also to your children. That's the fun part)
Is there a magic cutoff period when Offspring become accountable for their own Actions? Is there a wonderful moment when Parents can become detached spectators in The lives of their children and shrug, 'It's Their life,' and feel nothing?
When I was in my twenties , I stood in a hospital Corridor waiting for doctors to put a few Stitches in my daughter's head. I asked, 'When do You stop worrying?' The nurse said, 'When they get out of the accident stage..' My Dad just smiled faintly and said nothing.
When I was in my thirties, I sat on a little Chair in a classroom and heard how one of my Children talked incessantly, disrupted the class, And was headed for a career making License plates. As if to read my mind, a teacher Said, 'Don't worry, they all go through This stage and then you can sit back, relax and Enjoy them.' My dad just smiled Faintly and said nothing.
When I was in my forties, I spent a lifetime Waiting for the phone to ring, the cars to come Home, the front door to open. A friend said, 'They're trying to find themselves. Don't! worry, In a few years, you can stop worrying. They'll be Adults.' My dad just smiled faintly And said nothing.
By the time I was 50, I was sick & tired of being Vulnerable. I was still worrying over my Children, but there was a new wrinkle. There Was nothing I could do about it. My Dad just smiled faintly and said nothing. I Continued to anguish over their failures, be Tormented by their frustrations and absorbed in Their disappointments.
My friends said that when my kids got married I Could stop worrying and lead my own Life. I wanted to believe that, but I was Haunted by my dad's warm smile and his Occasional, 'You look pale. Are you all right? Call me the minute you get home. Are You depressed about something?'
Can it be that parents are sentenced to a Lifetime of worry? Is concern for one another Handed down like a torch to blaze the trail of Human frailties and the fears of the Unknown? Is concern a curse or is it a virtue That elevates us to the highest form of life?
One of my children became quite irritable Recently, saying to me, 'Where were you? I've been Calling for 3 days, and no one answered I was worried.' I smiled a warm smile. The torch has been passed.
PASS IT ON TO OTHER WONDERFUL PARENTS(And also to your children. That's the fun part)
Human Statue of Liberty
FACTS: Base to Shoulder: 150 feet Right Arm: 340 feet Widest part of arm holding torch: 12 1/2 feet Right thumb: 35 feet Thickest part of body: 29 feet Left hand length: 30 feet Face: 60 feet Nose: 21 feet Longest spike of head piece: 70 feet Torch and flame combined: 980 feet Number of men in flame of torch: 12,000 Number of men in torch: 2,800 Number of men in right arm: 1,200 Number of men in body, head and balance of figure only: 2,000
Total men: 18,000
Total men: 18,000
The Art of Giving
"Rivers do not drink their own water ,
nor do tree eat their own fruit ,
nor do rain clouds eat the grains reared by them.
The wealth of the noble is used solely for the benefit of others?
Even after accepting that giving is good and that one must learn to give ,
several questions need to be answered.
The first question is when should one give ?
Yudhisthir asks a beggar seeking alms to come the next day.
On this , Bhim rejoices , that Yudhisthir his brother , has conquered death!
For he is sure that he will be around tomorrow to give. Yudhisthir gets the message. One does not know really whether one will be theretomorrow to give! The time to give therefore is NOW.
The next question is 'how much to give ? One recalls the famous incident from history.
Rana Pratap was reeling after defeat from the Moghals.
He had lost his army , he had lost his wealth , and most important he had lost hope , his will to fight.
At that time in his darkest hour , his erstwhile minister Bhamasha came seeking him and placed his entire fortune at the disposal of Rana Pratap.
With this , Rana Pratap raised an army and lived to fight another day. The answer to this question how much to give is" Give as much as you can !
The next question is what to give ? It is not only money that can be given.
It could be a flower or even a smile.It is not how much one gives but how one gives that really matters.
When you give a smile to a stranger that may be the only good thing received by him in days and weeks! "You can give anything but you must give with your heart !
One also needs answer to this question whom to give ?
Many times we avoid giving by finding fault with the person who is seeking. However , being judgmental and rejecting a person on the presumption that he may not be the most
deserving is not justified. " Give without being judgmental !
Next we have to answer 'How to give ?
Coming to the manner of giving , one has to ensure that the receiver does not feel humiliated ,
nor the giver feels proud by giving. 'Let not your left hand know what your right hand gives?
Charity without publicity and fanfare , is the highest form of charity. 'Give quietly !While giving let not the recipient feel small or humiliated.
After all what we give never really belonged to us.
We come to this world with nothing and will go with nothing.
The thing gifted was only with us for a temporary period.
Why then take pride in giving away something which really did not belong to us?
Give with grace and with a feeling of gratitude.
What should one feel after giving ?
We all know the story of Eklavya.
When Dronacharya asked him for his right thumb as "Guru Dakshina".
He unhesitatingly cut off the thumb and gave it to Dronacharya. There is a little known sequel to this story.
Eklavya was asked whether he ever regretted the act of giving away his thumb when he was dying. His reply was "Yes ! I regretted this only once in my life. It was when Pandavas were coming in to kill Dronacharya who was broken hearted on the false news of death of
his son Ashwathama and had stopped fighting. It was then that I regretted the loss of my thumb. If the thumb was there , no one could have dared hurt my Guru? The message to us is clear.Give and never regret giving !
And the last question is' How much should we provide for our heirs ?
Ask yourself , 'Are we taking away from them the "gift of work? - a source of happiness!'
The answer is given by Warren Buffett:
"Leave your kids enough to do anything , but not enough to do nothing !
I would conclude by saying: let us learn the Art of Giving , and quoting Sant Kabir: "When the wealth in the house increases , When water fills a boat , Throw them out with both hands ! This is the wise thing to do!
nor do tree eat their own fruit ,
nor do rain clouds eat the grains reared by them.
The wealth of the noble is used solely for the benefit of others?
Even after accepting that giving is good and that one must learn to give ,
several questions need to be answered.
The first question is when should one give ?
Yudhisthir asks a beggar seeking alms to come the next day.
On this , Bhim rejoices , that Yudhisthir his brother , has conquered death!
For he is sure that he will be around tomorrow to give. Yudhisthir gets the message. One does not know really whether one will be theretomorrow to give! The time to give therefore is NOW.
The next question is 'how much to give ? One recalls the famous incident from history.
Rana Pratap was reeling after defeat from the Moghals.
He had lost his army , he had lost his wealth , and most important he had lost hope , his will to fight.
At that time in his darkest hour , his erstwhile minister Bhamasha came seeking him and placed his entire fortune at the disposal of Rana Pratap.
With this , Rana Pratap raised an army and lived to fight another day. The answer to this question how much to give is" Give as much as you can !
The next question is what to give ? It is not only money that can be given.
It could be a flower or even a smile.It is not how much one gives but how one gives that really matters.
When you give a smile to a stranger that may be the only good thing received by him in days and weeks! "You can give anything but you must give with your heart !
One also needs answer to this question whom to give ?
Many times we avoid giving by finding fault with the person who is seeking. However , being judgmental and rejecting a person on the presumption that he may not be the most
deserving is not justified. " Give without being judgmental !
Next we have to answer 'How to give ?
Coming to the manner of giving , one has to ensure that the receiver does not feel humiliated ,
nor the giver feels proud by giving. 'Let not your left hand know what your right hand gives?
Charity without publicity and fanfare , is the highest form of charity. 'Give quietly !While giving let not the recipient feel small or humiliated.
After all what we give never really belonged to us.
We come to this world with nothing and will go with nothing.
The thing gifted was only with us for a temporary period.
Why then take pride in giving away something which really did not belong to us?
Give with grace and with a feeling of gratitude.
What should one feel after giving ?
We all know the story of Eklavya.
When Dronacharya asked him for his right thumb as "Guru Dakshina".
He unhesitatingly cut off the thumb and gave it to Dronacharya. There is a little known sequel to this story.
Eklavya was asked whether he ever regretted the act of giving away his thumb when he was dying. His reply was "Yes ! I regretted this only once in my life. It was when Pandavas were coming in to kill Dronacharya who was broken hearted on the false news of death of
his son Ashwathama and had stopped fighting. It was then that I regretted the loss of my thumb. If the thumb was there , no one could have dared hurt my Guru? The message to us is clear.Give and never regret giving !
And the last question is' How much should we provide for our heirs ?
Ask yourself , 'Are we taking away from them the "gift of work? - a source of happiness!'
The answer is given by Warren Buffett:
"Leave your kids enough to do anything , but not enough to do nothing !
I would conclude by saying: let us learn the Art of Giving , and quoting Sant Kabir: "When the wealth in the house increases , When water fills a boat , Throw them out with both hands ! This is the wise thing to do!
Your Potential
There was once an old Red Indian who was poverty stricken. But one day, he strike it big when oil was discovered on his land. He became wealthy overnight and decided to reward himself by buying a Cadillac touring car. In those days, the Cadillac touring cars had two spare tires on the back. The old Indian wanted to be different and so he placed four spare tires at the back of his car. He bought himself a beautiful suit and hat. Everyday, with a cigar in his mouth he would drive into the hot, dusty, little Oklahoma cowboy town nearby. He wanted to show off his new car. He waved and spoke to everyone that he passed by, on the right and on the left. He sometimes turned all the way around to speak to the folks. The strange thing is that he never ran into anybody or over anybody. He never did hit anybody or anything. Guess why? Directly in front of that big beautiful car, there were two horses – pulling it! There was nothing wrong with the car, but the old Red Indian never learned how to start the car engine. Inside the car were a hundred horses, but the old Indian was only using two horses on the outside. Most of us make the same mistake of looking outside of us when we already have within us the necessary power to move us forward. Scientists said that we only use about 10% to 15 % of our full potential. Therefore, it is up to us to tap into our own potential and awaken the sleeping giant within us
Life
Great ways to lead your life :
* Accept that some days you're the pigeon,And some days you're the statue..
* Always keep your words soft and sweet,Just in case you have to eat them.
* Drive carefully. It's not only cars that can be"Recalled" by their maker.
* If you can't be kind, at least have the decency to be vague.
* If you lend someone $20 and never see that person again,It was probably worth it.
* It may be that your sole purpose in life is simply to be kind to others.
* Never put both feet in your mouth at the same time,Because then you won't have a leg to stand on.
* Nobody cares if you can't dance well.Just get up and dance.
* Since it's the early worm that gets eaten by the bird, sleep late.
* The second mouse gets the cheese.
* When everything's coming your way,You're in the wrong lane.
* Birthdays are good for you.The more you have, the longer you live.
* You may be only one person in the world,But you may also be the world to one person.
* Some mistakes are too much fun to only make once.
* We could learn a lot from crayons... Some are sharp, some are pretty and some are dull. Some have weird names, and all are different colors, but they all have to live in the same box.
*A truly happy person is one who can enjoy the scenery on a detour.
Have an awesome day and know that I thought about you today
* Accept that some days you're the pigeon,And some days you're the statue..
* Always keep your words soft and sweet,Just in case you have to eat them.
* Drive carefully. It's not only cars that can be"Recalled" by their maker.
* If you can't be kind, at least have the decency to be vague.
* If you lend someone $20 and never see that person again,It was probably worth it.
* It may be that your sole purpose in life is simply to be kind to others.
* Never put both feet in your mouth at the same time,Because then you won't have a leg to stand on.
* Nobody cares if you can't dance well.Just get up and dance.
* Since it's the early worm that gets eaten by the bird, sleep late.
* The second mouse gets the cheese.
* When everything's coming your way,You're in the wrong lane.
* Birthdays are good for you.The more you have, the longer you live.
* You may be only one person in the world,But you may also be the world to one person.
* Some mistakes are too much fun to only make once.
* We could learn a lot from crayons... Some are sharp, some are pretty and some are dull. Some have weird names, and all are different colors, but they all have to live in the same box.
*A truly happy person is one who can enjoy the scenery on a detour.
Have an awesome day and know that I thought about you today
Secrets of Good Relationships
----------------------------------- TRUST -----------------------------------------
TRUST is a very important factor for all relationships. When trust is broken, it is the end of the relationship. Lack of trust leads to suspicion, suspicion generates anger, anger causes enmity and enmity may result in separation. A telephone operator told me that one day she received a phone call. She answered, "Public Utilities Board." There was silence. She repeated, "PUB." There was still no answer. When she was going to cut off the line, she Heard a lady's voice, "Oh, so this is PUB. Sorry, I got the number from my Husband's pocket but I do not know whose number it is." Without mutual trust, just imagine what will happen to the couple if the telephone operator answered with just "hello" instead of "PUB".
----------------------------------- NO POINTING FINGERS ---------------------------------
A man asked his father-in-law, "Many people praised you for a successful marriage. Could you please share with me your secret?" The father-in-law answered in a smile, "Never criticize your wife for her shortcomings or when she does something wrong. Always bear in mind that because of her shortcomings and weaknesses, she could not find a better husband than you." We all look forward to being loved and respected. Many people are afraid of losing face. Generally, when a person makes a mistake, he would look around to find a scapegoat to point the finger at. This is the start of a war. We should always remember that when we point one finger at a person, the other four fingers are pointing at ourselves. If we forgive the others, others will ignore our mistake too.
----------------------------- CREATING PERFECT RELATIONSHIPS -----------------------
A person visited the government matchmaker for marriage, SDU, and requested "I am looking for a spouse. Please help me to find a suitable one." The SDU officer said, "Your requirements, please." "Oh, good looking, polite, humorous , sporty, knowledgeable, good in singing and dancing. Willing to accompany me the whole day at home during my leisure hour, if I don't go out. Telling me interesting stories when I need companion for conversation and be silent when I want to rest." The officer listened carefully and replied, "I understand you need television." There is a saying that a perfect match can only be found between a blind wife and a deaf husband, because the blind wife cannot see the faults of the husband and the deaf husband cannot hear the nagging of the wife. Many couples are blind and deaf at the courting stage and dream of perpetual perfect relationship. Unfortunately, when the excitement of love wears off, they wake up and discover that marriage is not a bed of roses. The nightmare begins.
----------------------------------- NO OVERPOWERING -------------------------------------
Many relationships fail because one party tries to overpower another, or demands too much. People in love tend to think that love will conquer all and their spouses will change the bad habits after marriage. Actually, this is not the case. There is a Chinese saying which carries the meaning that "It is easier to reshape a mountain or a river than a person's character." It is not easy to change. Thus, having high expectation on changing the spouse character will cause disappointment and unpleasantness. It would be less painful to change ourselves and lower our expectations..
----------------------------------- RIGHT SPEECH -----------------------------------------
There is a Chinese saying which carries the meaning that "A speech will either prosper or ruin a nation." Many relationships break off because of wrong speech. When a couple is too close with each other, we always forget mutual respect and courtesy. We may say anything without considering if it would hurt the other party. A friend and her millionaire husband visited their construction site. A worker who wore a helmet saw her and shouted, "Hi, Emily! Remember me? We used to date in the secondary school." On the way home, her millionaire husband teased her, "Luckily you married me. Otherwise you will be the wife of a construction worker." She answered,"You should appreciate that you married me. Other wise, he will be the millionaire and not you." Frequently exchanging these remarks plants the seed for a bad relationship. It's like a broken egg - cannot be reversed.
----------------------------------- PERSONAL PERCEPTION---------------------------------Different people have different perception. One man's meat could be another man's poison. A couple bought a donkey from the market. On the way home, a boy commented, "Very stupid. Why neither of them ride on the donkey? "Upon hearing that, the husband let the wife ride on the donkey. He walked besides them. Later, an old man saw it and commented, "The husband is the head of family. How can the wife ride on the donkey while the husband is on foot?" Hearing this, the wife quickly got down and let the husband ride on the donkey. Further on the way home, they met an old Lady. She commented, "How can the man ride on the donkey but let the wife walk. He is no gentleman." The husband thus quickly asked the wife to join him on the donkey. Then, they met a young man. He commented, "Poor donkey, how can you hold up the weight of two persons. They are cruel to you." Hearing that, the husband and wife immediately climbed down from the donkey and carried it on their shoulders. It seems to be the only choice left. Later, on a nar row bridge, the donkey was frightened and struggled. They lost their balance and fell into the river. You can never have everyone praise you, nor will everyone condemn you. Never in the past, not at present, and never will be in the future. Thus, do not be too bothered by others words if our conscience is clear..
----------------------------------- BE PATIENT-----------------------------------------
This is a true story which happened in the States. A man came out of his home to admire his new truck. To his puzzlement, his three-year-old son was happily hammering dents into the shiny paint of the truck. The man ran to his son, knocked him away, hammered the little boy's hands into pulp as punishment. When the father calmed down, he rushed his son to the hospital. Although the doctor tried desperately to save the crushed bones, he finally had to amputate the fingers from both the boy's hands.. When the boy woke up from the surgery & saw his bandaged stubs, he innocently said, "Daddy, I'm sorry about your truck." Then he asked, "but when are my fingers going to grow back?" The father went home & committed suicide. Think about this story the next time someone steps on your feet or u wish to take revenge. Think first before u lose your patience with someone u love. Trucks can be repaired.. Broken bones & hurt feelings often can't. Too often we fail to recognize the difference between the person and the performance. We forget that forgiveness is greater than revenge. People make mistakes. We are allowed to make mistakes. But the actions we take while in a rage will haunt us forever. "Good Life starts only when you stop wanting a better One"
TRUST is a very important factor for all relationships. When trust is broken, it is the end of the relationship. Lack of trust leads to suspicion, suspicion generates anger, anger causes enmity and enmity may result in separation. A telephone operator told me that one day she received a phone call. She answered, "Public Utilities Board." There was silence. She repeated, "PUB." There was still no answer. When she was going to cut off the line, she Heard a lady's voice, "Oh, so this is PUB. Sorry, I got the number from my Husband's pocket but I do not know whose number it is." Without mutual trust, just imagine what will happen to the couple if the telephone operator answered with just "hello" instead of "PUB".
----------------------------------- NO POINTING FINGERS ---------------------------------
A man asked his father-in-law, "Many people praised you for a successful marriage. Could you please share with me your secret?" The father-in-law answered in a smile, "Never criticize your wife for her shortcomings or when she does something wrong. Always bear in mind that because of her shortcomings and weaknesses, she could not find a better husband than you." We all look forward to being loved and respected. Many people are afraid of losing face. Generally, when a person makes a mistake, he would look around to find a scapegoat to point the finger at. This is the start of a war. We should always remember that when we point one finger at a person, the other four fingers are pointing at ourselves. If we forgive the others, others will ignore our mistake too.
----------------------------- CREATING PERFECT RELATIONSHIPS -----------------------
A person visited the government matchmaker for marriage, SDU, and requested "I am looking for a spouse. Please help me to find a suitable one." The SDU officer said, "Your requirements, please." "Oh, good looking, polite, humorous , sporty, knowledgeable, good in singing and dancing. Willing to accompany me the whole day at home during my leisure hour, if I don't go out. Telling me interesting stories when I need companion for conversation and be silent when I want to rest." The officer listened carefully and replied, "I understand you need television." There is a saying that a perfect match can only be found between a blind wife and a deaf husband, because the blind wife cannot see the faults of the husband and the deaf husband cannot hear the nagging of the wife. Many couples are blind and deaf at the courting stage and dream of perpetual perfect relationship. Unfortunately, when the excitement of love wears off, they wake up and discover that marriage is not a bed of roses. The nightmare begins.
----------------------------------- NO OVERPOWERING -------------------------------------
Many relationships fail because one party tries to overpower another, or demands too much. People in love tend to think that love will conquer all and their spouses will change the bad habits after marriage. Actually, this is not the case. There is a Chinese saying which carries the meaning that "It is easier to reshape a mountain or a river than a person's character." It is not easy to change. Thus, having high expectation on changing the spouse character will cause disappointment and unpleasantness. It would be less painful to change ourselves and lower our expectations..
----------------------------------- RIGHT SPEECH -----------------------------------------
There is a Chinese saying which carries the meaning that "A speech will either prosper or ruin a nation." Many relationships break off because of wrong speech. When a couple is too close with each other, we always forget mutual respect and courtesy. We may say anything without considering if it would hurt the other party. A friend and her millionaire husband visited their construction site. A worker who wore a helmet saw her and shouted, "Hi, Emily! Remember me? We used to date in the secondary school." On the way home, her millionaire husband teased her, "Luckily you married me. Otherwise you will be the wife of a construction worker." She answered,"You should appreciate that you married me. Other wise, he will be the millionaire and not you." Frequently exchanging these remarks plants the seed for a bad relationship. It's like a broken egg - cannot be reversed.
----------------------------------- PERSONAL PERCEPTION---------------------------------Different people have different perception. One man's meat could be another man's poison. A couple bought a donkey from the market. On the way home, a boy commented, "Very stupid. Why neither of them ride on the donkey? "Upon hearing that, the husband let the wife ride on the donkey. He walked besides them. Later, an old man saw it and commented, "The husband is the head of family. How can the wife ride on the donkey while the husband is on foot?" Hearing this, the wife quickly got down and let the husband ride on the donkey. Further on the way home, they met an old Lady. She commented, "How can the man ride on the donkey but let the wife walk. He is no gentleman." The husband thus quickly asked the wife to join him on the donkey. Then, they met a young man. He commented, "Poor donkey, how can you hold up the weight of two persons. They are cruel to you." Hearing that, the husband and wife immediately climbed down from the donkey and carried it on their shoulders. It seems to be the only choice left. Later, on a nar row bridge, the donkey was frightened and struggled. They lost their balance and fell into the river. You can never have everyone praise you, nor will everyone condemn you. Never in the past, not at present, and never will be in the future. Thus, do not be too bothered by others words if our conscience is clear..
----------------------------------- BE PATIENT-----------------------------------------
This is a true story which happened in the States. A man came out of his home to admire his new truck. To his puzzlement, his three-year-old son was happily hammering dents into the shiny paint of the truck. The man ran to his son, knocked him away, hammered the little boy's hands into pulp as punishment. When the father calmed down, he rushed his son to the hospital. Although the doctor tried desperately to save the crushed bones, he finally had to amputate the fingers from both the boy's hands.. When the boy woke up from the surgery & saw his bandaged stubs, he innocently said, "Daddy, I'm sorry about your truck." Then he asked, "but when are my fingers going to grow back?" The father went home & committed suicide. Think about this story the next time someone steps on your feet or u wish to take revenge. Think first before u lose your patience with someone u love. Trucks can be repaired.. Broken bones & hurt feelings often can't. Too often we fail to recognize the difference between the person and the performance. We forget that forgiveness is greater than revenge. People make mistakes. We are allowed to make mistakes. But the actions we take while in a rage will haunt us forever. "Good Life starts only when you stop wanting a better One"
Women..
Applicable to almost every woman
A simple thought to stop and think about.....
BELIEF - 1 :
SHELL NEVER BE SATISFIED:
TRUTH :
Woman are always looking for ways to makes things better. Dont take her suggestions as Complaints or Critisms, but as her desire to make the Relationship or Situation the best that it can be.
BELIEF - 2 :
A STRONG, CONFIDENT WOMAN DOESNT NEED A MAN TO TAKE CARE OF HER :
TRUTH :
Everyone Loves To Be Taken Care Of and To Feel Needed. Even if a Woman can fix things around the house or change the oil in her car, She will still ask for help so she can feel Your Strength, Support and Protection. Dont Ever Stop Asking, What Can I Do For You ? because it shows her that you care :
BELIEF - 3 :
WOMAN ONLY WANT TO CONTROL MEN :
TRUTH :
Its Not About Control ; Its About Love. When a Woman sees a Man Hurting , Struggling or Overwhelmed, Her Goal is to Help, Not Control. Let Her give You a Helping Hand.
BELIEF - 4 :
KEEPING A WOMAN REQUIRES A LOT OF HARD WORK, TIME AND MONEY :
TRUTH :
A Serious Relationship Requires Time and Effort to Cultivate It. You shouldnt Look at it a a Burden. Your Wife or Girlfriend will reciprocate the effort you put into it.
BELIEF - 5 :
YOU CANT LIE TO WOMAN :
TRUTH :
Woman Are Extremely Capable of Picking up Moods and Attitudes and can easily Read Body Language and Facial Expressions. Although You may think that You have gotten away with a Great Lie, She is either letting it slide because She wants to keep the Peace, or She is Lying to Herself because Shes Afraid of the Truth.
BELIEF - 6 :
JEALOUSY AND POSSESSIVENESS ARE A PART OF BEING A WOMAN:
TRUTH:
Woman are Protective of What Belongs to them. They Protect the things they Value, especially when it comes to Relationships. Its not that she doesnt Trust You ; She is Guarding the Relationship. You are too Precious to Her for Her to allow anything bad to happen .
BELIEF - 7 :
WOMAN ARE EMOTIONAL :
TRUTH :
Woman Dont Hide their Feelings. They articulate whats going on in their Minds. Theres nothing wrong with emotions “ We All Have Them. Being in Touch with their emotions causes women to be Sensitive and Caring, and thats why Men Love Them.
A simple thought to stop and think about.....
BELIEF - 1 :
SHELL NEVER BE SATISFIED:
TRUTH :
Woman are always looking for ways to makes things better. Dont take her suggestions as Complaints or Critisms, but as her desire to make the Relationship or Situation the best that it can be.
BELIEF - 2 :
A STRONG, CONFIDENT WOMAN DOESNT NEED A MAN TO TAKE CARE OF HER :
TRUTH :
Everyone Loves To Be Taken Care Of and To Feel Needed. Even if a Woman can fix things around the house or change the oil in her car, She will still ask for help so she can feel Your Strength, Support and Protection. Dont Ever Stop Asking, What Can I Do For You ? because it shows her that you care :
BELIEF - 3 :
WOMAN ONLY WANT TO CONTROL MEN :
TRUTH :
Its Not About Control ; Its About Love. When a Woman sees a Man Hurting , Struggling or Overwhelmed, Her Goal is to Help, Not Control. Let Her give You a Helping Hand.
BELIEF - 4 :
KEEPING A WOMAN REQUIRES A LOT OF HARD WORK, TIME AND MONEY :
TRUTH :
A Serious Relationship Requires Time and Effort to Cultivate It. You shouldnt Look at it a a Burden. Your Wife or Girlfriend will reciprocate the effort you put into it.
BELIEF - 5 :
YOU CANT LIE TO WOMAN :
TRUTH :
Woman Are Extremely Capable of Picking up Moods and Attitudes and can easily Read Body Language and Facial Expressions. Although You may think that You have gotten away with a Great Lie, She is either letting it slide because She wants to keep the Peace, or She is Lying to Herself because Shes Afraid of the Truth.
BELIEF - 6 :
JEALOUSY AND POSSESSIVENESS ARE A PART OF BEING A WOMAN:
TRUTH:
Woman are Protective of What Belongs to them. They Protect the things they Value, especially when it comes to Relationships. Its not that she doesnt Trust You ; She is Guarding the Relationship. You are too Precious to Her for Her to allow anything bad to happen .
BELIEF - 7 :
WOMAN ARE EMOTIONAL :
TRUTH :
Woman Dont Hide their Feelings. They articulate whats going on in their Minds. Theres nothing wrong with emotions “ We All Have Them. Being in Touch with their emotions causes women to be Sensitive and Caring, and thats why Men Love Them.
Two Horses
Just up the road from my home is a field, with two horses in it. From a distance, each horse looks like any other horse. But if you stop your car, or are walking by, you will notice something quite amazing....
Looking into the eyes of one horse will disclose that he is blind. His owner has chosen not to have him put down, but has made a good home for him.
This alone is amazing. If you stand nearby and listen, you will hear the sound of a bell. Looking around for the source of the sound, you will see that it comes from the smaller horse in the field. Attached to the horse's halter is a small bell. It lets the blind friend know where the other horse is, so he can follow.
As you stand and watch these two friends, you'll see that the horse with the bell is always checking on the blind horse, and that the blind horse will listen for the bell and then slowly walk to where the other horse is,trusting that he will not be led astray.
When the horse with the bell returns to the shelter of the barn each evening, it stops occasionally and looks back, Making sure that the blind friend isn't too far behind to hear the bell..
Like the owners of these two horses, God does not throw us away just because we are not perfect or because we have problems or challenges.
He watches over us and even brings others into our lives To help us when we are in need..
Sometimes we are the blind horse being guided by the little ringing bell of those who God places in our lives. Other times we are the guide horse, helping others to find their way....
Good friends are like that... You may not always see them, but you know they are always there..
Please listen for my bell and I'll listen for yours, and remember...
Be kinder than necessary- Everyone you meet is fighting Some kind of battle.
Live simply, Love generously, Care deeply, Speak kindly.......
FOR WE WALK BY FAITH AND NOT BY SIGHT
Looking into the eyes of one horse will disclose that he is blind. His owner has chosen not to have him put down, but has made a good home for him.
This alone is amazing. If you stand nearby and listen, you will hear the sound of a bell. Looking around for the source of the sound, you will see that it comes from the smaller horse in the field. Attached to the horse's halter is a small bell. It lets the blind friend know where the other horse is, so he can follow.
As you stand and watch these two friends, you'll see that the horse with the bell is always checking on the blind horse, and that the blind horse will listen for the bell and then slowly walk to where the other horse is,trusting that he will not be led astray.
When the horse with the bell returns to the shelter of the barn each evening, it stops occasionally and looks back, Making sure that the blind friend isn't too far behind to hear the bell..
Like the owners of these two horses, God does not throw us away just because we are not perfect or because we have problems or challenges.
He watches over us and even brings others into our lives To help us when we are in need..
Sometimes we are the blind horse being guided by the little ringing bell of those who God places in our lives. Other times we are the guide horse, helping others to find their way....
Good friends are like that... You may not always see them, but you know they are always there..
Please listen for my bell and I'll listen for yours, and remember...
Be kinder than necessary- Everyone you meet is fighting Some kind of battle.
Live simply, Love generously, Care deeply, Speak kindly.......
FOR WE WALK BY FAITH AND NOT BY SIGHT
Add God's Name
One rich man owned 19 horses when he died. In his last will and testament he had written that upon his death, half the horses should go to his only son; one fourth to the village temple and one fifth to the faithful servant. The village elders could not stop scratching their heads. How can they give half of the 19 horses to the son? You cannot cut up a horse. They puzzled over this dilemma for more than two weeks and then decided to send for a wise man who was living in a neighboring village.
The wise man came riding on his horse and asked the villagers if he can be of any help to them. The village elders told him about the rich man’s last will and testament which stated that half of the (19) horses must be given to his only son, one fourth must go to the temple and one fifth to the faithful servant.
The wise man understood the complication in the will and derived a solution to solve the puzzle. He had the 19 horses placed in a row standing next to one another. Then he added his own horse as the 20th horse. Now he went about giving half of the 20 horses that is ten horses to the son. One fourth of 20-that is 5 horses were given to the temple committee. One fifth of twenty-that is 4 horses were given to the faithful servant. Ten plus five plus four made 19 horses (10 + 5 + 4 = 19). The remaining 20th horse was his own which he promptly mounted, spoke a few inspiring words, and rode back home.
The villagers were simply dumbfounded, full of disbelief and filled with admiration. And the parting words of the wise man were inscribed in their hearts and minds which they greatly cherished and passed on to their succeeding generations till today.
The wise man said: In our daily lives, in our daily affairs, simply add God’s name and then go about facing the day’s happenings. Problems (if any) will disappear and most complex puzzle will be solved..
The wise man came riding on his horse and asked the villagers if he can be of any help to them. The village elders told him about the rich man’s last will and testament which stated that half of the (19) horses must be given to his only son, one fourth must go to the temple and one fifth to the faithful servant.
The wise man understood the complication in the will and derived a solution to solve the puzzle. He had the 19 horses placed in a row standing next to one another. Then he added his own horse as the 20th horse. Now he went about giving half of the 20 horses that is ten horses to the son. One fourth of 20-that is 5 horses were given to the temple committee. One fifth of twenty-that is 4 horses were given to the faithful servant. Ten plus five plus four made 19 horses (10 + 5 + 4 = 19). The remaining 20th horse was his own which he promptly mounted, spoke a few inspiring words, and rode back home.
The villagers were simply dumbfounded, full of disbelief and filled with admiration. And the parting words of the wise man were inscribed in their hearts and minds which they greatly cherished and passed on to their succeeding generations till today.
The wise man said: In our daily lives, in our daily affairs, simply add God’s name and then go about facing the day’s happenings. Problems (if any) will disappear and most complex puzzle will be solved..
Wedding Ring
This is interesting. Try it out !
Firstly, open your palms (face to face), bend the middle fingers and hold them together - back to back
Secondly, open and hold the remaining three fingers and the thumb
Now, try to separate your thumbs.., they will open, Please join your thumbs as before and separate your Index fingers.., they will also open, Now join the Index fingers and separate your Little fingers..., they will open too.
Finally, join your Little fingers, and try to separate your Ring fingers (representing your spouse).You will be surprised to see that you just CAN’T.., see the significance of the 4th finger / Ring finger?
Practical DEMONSTRATION – bonded for life :)...!!
Firstly, open your palms (face to face), bend the middle fingers and hold them together - back to back
Secondly, open and hold the remaining three fingers and the thumb
Now, try to separate your thumbs.., they will open, Please join your thumbs as before and separate your Index fingers.., they will also open, Now join the Index fingers and separate your Little fingers..., they will open too.
Finally, join your Little fingers, and try to separate your Ring fingers (representing your spouse).You will be surprised to see that you just CAN’T.., see the significance of the 4th finger / Ring finger?
Practical DEMONSTRATION – bonded for life :)...!!
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