Disciples thought for a while, one of them said, “Because we lose our calm, we shout.”
“But, why should you shout when the other person is just next to you? You can as well tell them what you have to say in a soft manner.”, asked the Saint.
Disciples gave some other answers but none satisfied the other disciples.
Finally the saint explained, “When two people are angry at each other, their hearts distance a lot. To cover that distance they tend to shout to be able to hear each other. The angrier they are, the harder they will have to shout to hear each other… to cover that great distance.”
The Saint continued, “What happens when folks are in love and friendship?”
“They don't shout at each other but talk softly, Because their hearts are very close. The distance between them is either non-existent or very less...”
'When they love each other even more, what happens? They do not speak, only whisper and they get even closer to each other. Finally they even need not whisper, they only look at each other that is all is needed to communicate. That is how close two people are when they love / understand each other.'
He looked at his disciples and said, “So when you argue do not let your hearts get distant, Do not say words that distance each other more, Or else there will come a day when the distance is so much that you will not find the path to return.”